Telling family and friends of surgery decision

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Smurfette I'm so glad you understand. I don't want to be judged on decisions I make. Unfortunately I have a lot of people in my life that I know would not support me. I havnt even told my partner yet. He always goes on about no easy fix diet and exercise just do it. I know the surgery is no easy fix at all. He will support me but he would prefer if I didn't ... If you get what I'm saying. I think once I open up to him about how I feel he will understand. I have started telling people my "New Years resolution" is to join a gym and start getting healthy... Then hopefully like what you did. Start the diets and losing some weight and they all put it down the the lifestyle changes. I don't want to tell my boss though- even though it's meant to be confidential that's unfortunately not exactly how my workplace operates. Thanks so much for your reply. Was there a link at the bottom of that???

Hi there LuLuAnne

Yes I know where you are coming from; I have seen a few Gastric sleeve and LapBand people reveal themselves; and all I can say is "some people can be so nasty, especially in country towns". One would think they haven't anything better to talk about. I am still in the closet, except for my OH and BF (whom I told after the deed; and she said she was glad it was after as she would of freaked, but fully support me now). Once it is out there; you cannot not get it back. Some people have extrodinary friends and relatives, noone ever nasty about it; others tend to get the total backlash. Me myself I find and I know I didn't want to be the subject of other peoples constant scrutiny, gossip and nastiness.

I started a diet of TF three weeks before OF (on two weeks as per sugeons instructions); quite openingly (my diary contains a lot of detail); which at the end of the five weeks I had lost about ten kilos. I then went on holidays (for the op, but no one the wiser) for a few weeks; and on return everyone assumed I had lost it on these diets; though I had also by then joined a fittness club and had a specialist dietican (adding to the story); which is all true, and I was told by the doctor to loose weight. My boss and my children knew I was having an operation; though not exactly what (fixup job); and an employer (by law) does not have to know the details of your operation and cannot repeat it to anyone, even the staff.

I have had a few people ask me for the exact details of how I lost the weight. Saying it is a combination of a lot of things; fittness; gym; dietican; and adding to that if I think they are pretty confidential; I have said if they pop over to my place one day I will go over the whole plan with them. (no-one has taken me up on it as yet). When out of town shopping for clothes etc; some people notice, and I have eleaborated on the GS knowing they will not repeat it; but only a small handful; though this was at two years plus after the GS.

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Thanks for your reply nini I really appreciate it. Maybe I will change my mind but at the moment I'd like it to be my little secret. (Along with some of my close friends and family)

Hi LuluAnne,

Once I had the operation I told everyone and honestly haven't had one negative comment but I can understand if you want to keep this private. The best cover story is that you have had a large Hiatus Hernia Repair. The post op recover is very similar and it also explains why you may get nauseated or not tolerate certain foods any more. 

good luck
Nini

Hey everyone.
I decided 4 years ago I wanted the sleeve. I have finally taken the next step and will have my 1st consultation in May. I could almost cry. I can finally see this happening. I don't have parents but I do have sisters and they are 100% behind me. I don't feel comfortable telling people about my decision though. Especially people from work and certain people who would give you the line " just diet and exercise". I guess what I'm asking is. Has anyone ever has a story for why they were having surgery or why the sudden weight loss??? I know it's nothing to be ashamed of but I can't help but feel like this is my secret.

Thanks everyone x