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+4mapmar PiercedMumma08 MrsSea belladingo 8 posters | Author | Message |
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thankana Part of the furniture
Number of posts : 334 Age : 53 Location : Adelaide Registration date : 2010-06-04
| Subject: Re: Dr Jon Armstrong info pleaseeeeeee and what to do with negative people Thu 09 Dec 2010, 2:24 am | |
| Everyone at work is very supportive and they all know but I work with the best bunch of people. We're also like a family what happens in our area stays in our area. One of the retired women came back for a visit and hadnt seen me for ages and she was shocked at my weight loss. So I explained it all to her, she is the most loveliest gorgeous woman. When I left someone from another dept came over and she must have mentioned my weight loss and the woman came almost running to my desk to find out how I did it. She is soooo frigging nosey. I said diet and excercise and she asked what excercise and I said, "If u did zumba that's always good." Then she asked others in the dept(when I wasnt around) and they just said diet and excercise. That Friday afternoon was hilarious. My girls will always have my back. Sorry I droned on but wanted to share that some people may shock u with their support and some are just plain nosey. | |
| | | Emily Part of the furniture
Number of posts : 1180 Location : Earth Registration date : 2010-04-12
| Subject: Re: Dr Jon Armstrong info pleaseeeeeee and what to do with negative people Thu 09 Dec 2010, 1:04 am | |
| I told my best friend and my sister (who came to some preop appts with me). I only told my mother, father, brother and other sister when I was about 2-3 weeks from surgery and everything was arranged. I was too chicken to tell dad (felt kind of embarrassing to admit I was such a pig I needed my stomach chopped off..) so mum told him for me. My siblings were shocked I guess that it was all organized and so soon, but I was prepared with what I was doing and why, and they got on board quickly. Everyone came to visit me in hospital or sent flowers, and they have all been my biggest champions. They surprised me, to be honest.
Anyone else? None of their business. I feel it's highly rude to comment on strangers' weight, so I don't do it and I don't appreciate it when people comment on mine. I mean, if they didn't mention when I was porking up, why do they feel it's ok to mention my weight loss? What if I said "well actually I have cancer" when they said "how did you lose weight!?".. I just find it personal and private.
I guess I was worried preop about negative reactions, but I don't actually care about that now that I've lost a significant amount of weight.
I will say - you can't "untell", so make sure you mean it before you tell someone. | |
| | | lilac Part of the furniture
Number of posts : 374 Age : 52 Location : Australia Registration date : 2010-08-02
| Subject: Re: Dr Jon Armstrong info pleaseeeeeee and what to do with negative people Thu 09 Dec 2010, 12:41 am | |
| - PiercedMumma08 wrote:
- Hi there!
And for those who arent supportive of the surgery journey- yes, it would be nice to have their support but ultimately, this is YOUR decision and yours ONLY. You are the only person who can make the decision about this.
Nat I completely agree with Nat's comment - it is our personal decision and no one else's business at the end of the day! I also have been on antidepressants and my family have not been supportive with my having WLS - but after having a bit of a crying/yelling fit in front of them, venting my frustration and saying "if I don't have this, I'll end up killing myself!" they got the message! I think we need to not only be honest with ourselves but also with those closest to us - sometimes they honestly just don't get it. By expressing our inner most feelings and 'demons' they come to understand through sympathising with our plight, even if they can't empathise. Good luck with your situation, I hope you get all the support you need. I recommend not telling anyone outside of the family - it's no one's business! Big hugs, Kris. | |
| | | Slaps Part of the furniture
Number of posts : 206 Age : 43 Location : South Coast NSW Registration date : 2010-11-30
| Subject: Re: Dr Jon Armstrong info pleaseeeeeee and what to do with negative people Thu 02 Dec 2010, 10:34 am | |
| Hi Trish,
This is a hard scary and yet a very exciting time for me.
I seen the Dr Monday I’m using a Dr Taylor, was ready for lap band and walked out saying what is a sleeve and it sounds great! I think I never looked into it because it is not reversible! But the more I look into it the more it sounds it will work for me.
My concerns about the band are: Fills with a big needle, band movement, food getting stuck, big needle, feeling the band and well a big needle! You take all of these away and you have a sleeve J
I have wanted wls for god over 5 years now, but felt bad and am worried what ppl will say! I know it will be hard and I’m pretty sure I will not tell everyone just ppl that will not judge and support me which will be hard but help me or get out of my way, this IS FOR ME!!!
I have always played sport, but as I got bigger I have noticed ppl clap me for the smallest thing, they feel sorry for me or thing god she is so big I can’t believe she caught that ball!! I cannot wait until the day I walk onto the field and ppl remember me for being the best chic on there and not the fat one that was not bad but just fat, I want my life back and I want to kick there ass doing it J
I have worked out the sleeve will do a lot for me, it will not be easy and I’m sure ppl will have something to say. But when I walk out of the club with the hottest guy there I’m sure they will be lost for words and all ill say is good night. GO FOR IT. Good luck Caitlin | |
| | | MrsSea Newbie
Number of posts : 149 Location : Perth Registration date : 2010-07-06
| Subject: Re: Dr Jon Armstrong info pleaseeeeeee and what to do with negative people Thu 02 Dec 2010, 10:08 am | |
| Oh, just on GJ (Gorgeous Jons) Carefulness. My op took 3 hours. why? Because he was so so precise. I had complications due to my scarring from the band. It was to be expected. So he fixed it all up and then double stitched me from the inside and out. I knew that without a doubt, had he got in there and it was too hard or would have put me in danger - he'd have closed me up and sent me home. I never, for a second, doubted his ability to successfully sleeve me. My daughter also loves him. He's the only Dr she'll talk to! | |
| | | mapmar Top Poster
Number of posts : 2342 Age : 54 Location : Perth, Western Australia Registration date : 2009-09-09
| Subject: Re: Dr Jon Armstrong info pleaseeeeeee and what to do with negative people Thu 02 Dec 2010, 10:01 am | |
| Well you couldn't have picked a better surgeon.... Jon is absolutely fabulous. He is so careful and precise in his surgery and that is from inside info I have from an anaesthetist that works with him. He explains things really well and takes his time. Penny his secretary is also fabulous as well. Laura his dietitian is fabulous as well... THE WHOLE TEAM IS FABULOUS! Get my drift! LOL.... Seriously Jon is the best surgeon to go to and I can't rave enough about him. If you or your hubby would like to come to a get together please put your name down. I took my hubby to a get together as he was not keen on me getting the surgery but afterwards he was all for it. Seeing other people eat and 'BE NORMAL' was wonderful.
PM me if you wish... I am happy to discuss anything! | |
| | | PiercedMumma08 Top Poster
Number of posts : 1702 Age : 45 Location : Australia Registration date : 2010-04-05
| Subject: Re: Dr Jon Armstrong info pleaseeeeeee and what to do with negative people Thu 02 Dec 2010, 9:36 am | |
| Hi there!
For me, I was having some difficulty deciding between 2 surgeons. I made appointments for both.
But when I met my first one, Dr Lockie, I didnt worry about time and money with the other doctor (who I know is also lovely and very very good) because I felt immediately comfortable and confident with my surgeon. I guess that the 'feeling' you get from the doctors is a bit like intuition- you will 'feel' right. When i met and spoke to my surgeon, it just felt 'right'.
Mrs Sea has given some AWESOME advice. Just dont tell people if you dont want to about the surgery. I cant STAND it when I tell someone Ive had surgery because their first comment is "oh the lap band". GRRRRRRRRR NO!!!! So i use the opportunity to explain it to them.
But, in saying that, Ive kind of endured more negativity from so called "friends" about my weight and the decision of WLS AFTER the surgery. People I havent seen for a while have made some pretty hurtful and got awful comments which have hurt and saddened me. B
Is it their jealousy? Is it their own insecurities? Is it that they do not understand what its like to be morbidly obese? Probably ALL of these things. So just be prepared that SOME people may be negative towards you POST surgery.
I just find in society today it seems that people dont seem to think commenting on another persons weight is wrong. Its horrible. Why is it obesity is such an open slather for people to comment on? Its like some of them enjoy hurting others.
Sorry, that turned into a little vent session didnt it!
And for those who arent supportive of the surgery journey- yes, it would be nice to have their support but ultimately, this is YOUR decision and yours ONLY. You are the only person who can make the decision about this. My partner wasnt overly supportive to start. But, I put it out there that I was doing this with him, or without him. So, he decided to come along to some appointments with me, and after he met my surgeon also where he had the chance to ask questions also, he seemed more 'comfortable' about the decision (but it wouldnt have stopped me if he was uncomfortable..... i actually told him that no one, including him, would stop me).
So, how badly do you want to end the yo yo cycle of dieting? How badly do you need/ desire to be more healthy and happy? I guess it comes down to these things.
I hope this has been some help to you and that you will research more about the sleeve and be comfortable, confident and happy with your decision. I dont regret it at all.
PM me any time. Good luck hun.
Nat | |
| | | MrsSea Newbie
Number of posts : 149 Location : Perth Registration date : 2010-07-06
| Subject: Re: Dr Jon Armstrong info pleaseeeeeee and what to do with negative people Thu 02 Dec 2010, 9:27 am | |
| Trish, first off, take a big deep breath. It's fine. We've all been in the exact same boat. I too tried everything, hell, I even tried the lap band! Dr armstrong is amazing. I adore him. He's very straight down the line and will explain everything over and over until you get it. He's softly spoken and has a lovely English accent. Penny his receptionist is just lovely too. He'll go through your history, the difference between the band and the sleeve. Then will probably send you to see Laura, the dietician and she'll explain the other side of it. She is also gorgeous. I've even got my husband to agree to see her (not for wls though) Negative people? well, I learnt my lesson with the band. don't tell them. I've told a very select few about my sleeve. I picked them carefully. I dont and wont surround myself with people who have a negative reaction to something I'm doing for myself and my family. Feel free to PM me if you need to. I'm 9 days out and honestly? as much as I whinged before? I'd do it again | |
| | | belladingo Newbie
Number of posts : 66 Location : Bunbury Registration date : 2010-12-01
| Subject: Dr Jon Armstrong info pleaseeeeeee and what to do with negative people Thu 02 Dec 2010, 8:41 am | |
| Hi again, well after reading and reading and more reading I've decided to just pick Dr Jon Armstrong as a starting point to find out more about the gastric sleeve. I have read some good things on here about him but it realy is hard at the end of the day to know who is THE best surgeon. I would love for any info anyone has on Jon Armstrong? I am seeing him on the 15th so any info would be great. I'm so scared and unsure if this is the right thing to do and my family seem to all be not too keen on it which makes it harder. Hubby doesnt really say alot so who knows. Ihave seriously tried every diet under the sun. lost 20kgs with duromine and weight watchers last year only to put it all back on plus more am now 130kgs and cant really be on duromine as i am on antidepressants. I feel I have had enough and need help desperately hence why I am turning to wls as a last resort. Has anyone else been in thesame boat with other people not keen that they have had or thinking of having wls? Is it really possible to live a full and long life without that part of the stomach that is taken out? Like what about getting diseases or cancers or anything does it make it easier to get those things without part of an organ thats meant to be there? Sorry for al the questions I just really want to make sure I'm doing the right thing. Thank you so much in advance Trish | |
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