Hi Everyone

" Butttt I still want her there for me so how ironic is that. Maybe Im lookin for her blessings in my own way "

Yep: I hear what you're saying. Of course you want her support! Sisters wouldn't be able to push our buttons nearly so effectively if we didn't love 'em, respect 'em, and want 'em to approve of us. And you do love your sister: look how loyal you are! First hint of criticism from an outsider (me) and you jump right on it.

Hope she comes around to the supporters' bench soon, and without too much emotional wear-and-tear on you.

Best,

Dark

Sisters! sigh. It's a weirdly competitive dynamic.

I have one (younger) who was banded a few years ago. When I decided to follow in her footsteps and have WLS myself (the sleeve in my case), she stacked on a very strange little turn: kind of "I've had mine, but you can't have yours." I also suspect that she didn't properly research the sleeve at the time, and now wishes she'd done that instead of the band, which is giving her bother.

So basically I agree with George: jealousy and sibling rivalry.

Good luck with that!

Dark

PS: we're not even remotely Greek, but we're EXTREMELY stubborn!

Might be a bit of jealousy there on your sisters part !! She wont know what to say when you've lost all your weight

georgexiro wrote:

Hey Greekgirl , my 2 stubborn brothers didnt even come and see me......I did this surgery for ME ! I am feeling better by the day.If you need anything, let me know :)


GOOD LUCK OPPPPPPPPAAA !@!

Good on you georgexiro. Yes this is for me tooooo.
She tells me now that I can do it with exercise and diet (as she is trying to do it now and that is fine and good for her). She tells me she is the elder (well we know that one dont we lol) and I should listen to her. (ps: im 50 this year and should listen to her mmmm) lellare bullor. lol

Thanx for sharing too

greekgirl wrote:

Kaz23 wrote:

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Kaz can u tell me a bit more about Dr Padovan. I am going into the Mount Hospital and any tips you can give me would be welcome. I am loathe to buy new nighties so do they have hospital gowns I can use. Wow what a silly question eh and how long did you stay in for

No, there are no silly questions LOL. I was in the Mount from Monday morning (was 1st on the am theatre list) and was discharged on the Thursday morning. You will come back from theatre with a drain in your side which stays in until you are discharged. I'm not sure which anaesthetist you will have but they give good pain cover (Patient controlled analgesia) and anti-nausea medications are all given IV. I never experienced any pain or nausea. Dr Padovan doesn't start you on fluids until he sees your scan results (in which you need to drink awful licorice tasting fluid called Gastrographin) and they take pictures while you swallow. I wore a hospital gown for the 1st 2 days, then on the third day I dressed in my own pyjamas.

I hope this helps. Feel free to ask me anything, I don't mind. :D

Hi Kaz

Thanx for that info. Know it sounded silly but u gotta ask dont you.
A lot of people talk about the nausea is this from the anaesthetist.

Im gettin a bit nervous now and doing things silly or forgettin things...my head is full of stuff lol

Roll on 13th May

Again thanks

Hey Kaz

Did u have to do optifast and stuff. Dr Padovan said not to worry with me my choice if I wanted to do it or not. I notice a lot of people on here do or have to. How about you
Cheers

Kaz23 wrote:

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Kaz can u tell me a bit more about Dr Padovan. I am going into the Mount Hospital and any tips you can give me would be welcome. I am loathe to buy new nighties so do they have hospital gowns I can use. Wow what a silly question eh and how long did you stay in for

No, there are no silly questions LOL. I was in the Mount from Monday morning (was 1st on the am theatre list) and was discharged on the Thursday morning. You will come back from theatre with a drain in your side which stays in until you are discharged. I'm not sure which anaesthetist you will have but they give good pain cover (Patient controlled analgesia) and anti-nausea medications are all given IV. I never experienced any pain or nausea. Dr Padovan doesn't start you on fluids until he sees your scan results (in which you need to drink awful licorice tasting fluid called Gastrographin) and they take pictures while you swallow. I wore a hospital gown for the 1st 2 days, then on the third day I dressed in my own pyjamas.

I hope this helps. Feel free to ask me anything, I don't mind. :D

Hi Kaz

Thanx for that info. Know it sounded silly but u gotta ask dont you.
A lot of people talk about the nausea is this from the anaesthetist.

Im gettin a bit nervous now and doing things silly or forgettin things...my head is full of stuff lol

Roll on 13th May

Again thanks

Hey Greekgirl , my 2 stubborn brothers didnt even come and see me......I did this surgery for ME ! I am feeling better by the day.If you need anything, let me know :)


GOOD LUCK OPPPPPPPPAAA !@!

georgexiro wrote:

Hi Greekgirl. Yiasou . I also have Greek background and I also have a stubborn sibling !!

I was banded on the 20th April 2010.

Good luck and do what's best for you.

Hi georgexiro

Yes our heritage of stubborness is phenomenal isnt it and I do hope u are doing well.

goodluck

Hi Greekgirl
I am not greek like you and georgexiro but I did marry one and he is very stubborn! LOL so I think I can relate a little.
I think that you probably have enough going on in your head regarding the surgery and how everything will go for you with having to also think about your sister. I understand you guys are very close and you want and may even need to share this experience with her but sometimes life doesnt work that way and maybe its better to just think about what YOU need at this very nervous yet exciting time in your life. I know I will be doing this ultimately for myself and no one else and I have a best friend who is 60kg, very fit and healthy and just doesnt get it, I put it out there to her once (about the gastric sleeve surgery) and she shot me down instantly saying that I was stupid to even think about getting something like that done and I should just "eat right and excercise". I decided there and then that as much as I love her to bits, she wont be sharing this expericence with me until the operation is over and I will tell her then. In the mean time, I have the all the support I need from wonderful people here at this forum.
Good luck with everything & I look forward to hearing how your operation and recovery goes : )

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Kaz can u tell me a bit more about Dr Padovan. I am going into the Mount Hospital and any tips you can give me would be welcome. I am loathe to buy new nighties so do they have hospital gowns I can use. Wow what a silly question eh and how long did you stay in for

No, there are no silly questions LOL. I was in the Mount from Monday morning (was 1st on the am theatre list) and was discharged on the Thursday morning. You will come back from theatre with a drain in your side which stays in until you are discharged. I'm not sure which anaesthetist you will have but they give good pain cover (Patient controlled analgesia) and anti-nausea medications are all given IV. I never experienced any pain or nausea. Dr Padovan doesn't start you on fluids until he sees your scan results (in which you need to drink awful licorice tasting fluid called Gastrographin) and they take pictures while you swallow. I wore a hospital gown for the 1st 2 days, then on the third day I dressed in my own pyjamas.

I hope this helps. Feel free to ask me anything, I don't mind. :D

Hi Greekgirl. Yiasou . I also have Greek background and I also have a stubborn sibling !!

I was banded on the 20th April 2010.

Good luck and do what's best for you.

Hi all

I want to say thankyou all for sending your well wishes and support.
Kaz can u tell me a bit more about Dr Padovan. I am going into the Mount Hospital and any tips you can give me would be welcome. I am loathe to buy new nighties so do they have hospital gowns I can use. Wow what a silly question eh and how long did you stay in for

Again all thnx

Hello all, I am DotComBum, just signed up for this forum and looking forward to talk with you all



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Hi,
Welcome aboard.
It is so exciting waiting for the op, yep probably a little nervous as well LOL
My advise is to just concentrate on the op that is approaching and everything else will fall into place later on.

As you can guess I am very happy with my surgery

hugs Gail

Hi Greekgirl.

All the best for your sleeve operation. Dr Padovan is fantastic. He did my sleeve on 22nd March. I'll be seeing him next week for my 6 week check up.

She probably worried that the same thing will happen to you. Perhaps she doesn't understand all the aspects of getting a sleeve versus stapling. I believe that once she see's your progress and health issues diminish she will come around. In the meantime be up front in telling her that she may not like the procedure your getting but you really need her there for moral support.

Welcome and hoping everything goes subperbly.
JWD

Thanks Greekgirl,
For clearing that up I was getting worried
Also sorry to hear that your sister had such a bad run.
All the best for your op,don't worry your sister will soon come around to your way of thinking.
Sharon.

Hi GreekGirl,

I'm sorry your sister had such a bad experience with the stomach stapling, I have a friend who went through a very similar thing. The good news is that the sleeve is a very different operation to stomach stapling, in fact someone on here said that stomach stapling was really more the forerunner of the gastric band. I actually stopped telling people that they used staples when I described my op, as I noticed they were thinking I was having something like stomach stapling done, and they all knew negative stories about that.

Hopefully your sister will see your journey as an inspiration.

Cheers - Carrie

Yes she had the stomach stapling in Adelaide government paid for it as her life was in jeopardy at that size.
She didnt cope with it at all as she didnt really get the help from health professiionals and such so was very angry hence tried to eat and threw up and escalated to popping her staples and was in hospital numerous times.
So as u can imagine she was a mess. Her biggest thing was we all didnt understand which we didnt and she fell into a great big hole like depression.
She is extremely head strong and if u tell her she cant do something then she will prove u wrong lol.
So its very hard to talk to her about it and if u do she gives me sermons.
Counting down slowly........

Hello Greekgirl,
I'm with you Sue,please tell us why it all went so wrong????

Sharon.

It was probalby the Gastric Stapling. I had that done 25years ago.

Daisy

Howdy Congrads on getting a date not long to go

So your saying your sister had the sleeve done 15years ago ?
Can you tell us how she put all that weight back on please sorry just very curious ?

Cheers Sue

Come on over the the May 2010 monthly board and put yourself on the list!

I'm curious, how did your sister have a VSG 15 years ago, I thought this procedure had not come into bariatrics until around 2000?

Zoe